Elaine & Duane’s Story

Elaine Choutka has worn many hats throughout her life – grandma, mom, wife, math teacher, and avid reader, to name a few. Her husband, Duane, was a dedicated farmer, and together they spent 40 years building a life on their family farm. Every day after Elaine returned home from teaching college math, Duane would ask about her day. But one day, Elaine’s response was different: “Not good.” She’d forgotten what she was teaching in the middle of a lesson. Duane grew concerned, worried that students might lose respect for his wife if this continued. When it happened again, they began to look for answers. After a series of tests, they got a life-changing diagnosis: Elaine had early-onset Alzheimer’s.

With Elaine’s diagnosis, medical advisors urged them to move closer to family, healthcare, and support resources. While Duane had always been the primary decision maker, the weight of their new reality changed something in him.

“I used to be the one calling all the shots, but now she’s my priority, and I had to follow her lead,” Duane said. “Elaine was the main character in my life, and I had to start thinking of her needs first.”

In 2018, the couple retired to Columbus, a location close to their children and Alzheimer’s support resources. Duane assumed full responsibility for their household, from cooking and cleaning to ensuring Elaine’s comfort. They cherished daily walks together, sometimes walking up to 5 miles. As Elaine’s condition progressed, managing daily tasks became more challenging.

“I couldn’t go to the store, the pharmacy, or my grandkid’s events,” Duane said. “Everything I did revolved around making sure Elaine was okay.” By October of 2023, Elaine’s care exceeded what he could provide on his own. He made the difficult decision to transition Elaine to Edgewood Columbus Memory Care.

“It was one of the hardest decisions I’ve ever made, but I knew it was what she needed,” Duane said. He visits Elaine daily, treasuring moments of connection with her - sitting outside, sharing a meal, or singing to her.

“Sometimes she’ll recognize my voice or hug, and something just clicks,” Duane said. “Those moments mean more than the best Christmas present.”

In 2016, the Choutka’s participated in their first Walk to End Alzheimer’s – Northeast Nebraska, forming “Team Elaine.” This summer, Duane and other community members partnered with Edward Jones of Columbus to host the inaugural charity golf tournament and made over 100 calls to local businesses and potential supporters, raising over $16,000. The second annual golf tournament will take place on July 26, 2025.

For nearly a decade, Team Elaine has raised essential funds for the Alzheimer’s Association, encouraging others to join the fight. Duane and his family are vocal advocates for Alzheimer’s awareness and the Alzheimer’s Association Support Group in Columbus.

“I had no idea how much I needed the support group until I joined,” Duane said. “Hearing other people’s stories helped me realize what to expect and it was invaluable.”